Sunday, January 8, 2012
Writing about Weddings
I'm sure every girl, regardless of whether she was born male or female, dreams of the day of her wedding. It's a subject that's been written in captions from time to time, and also in printed transgender fiction, such as some of the novels published by Reluctant Press. For some people, writing about weddings, especially if it involves a transgendered bride, is an outlet for romantic frustrations.
I have written quite a few captions and novels involving transgendered women (especially those who have been through the complete change from man to woman) who have gotten married. For me, this is an outlet for years of romantic frustration. I was once engaged to be married. During the early 1990s, I was preparing to settle down with and marry a woman (actually born female) whom I had been dating since 1985. She had a very troubled life; she came from a two-generation history of abuse, had dealt with meningitis when she was 12, and couldn't finish high school as a result. I broke off that engagement in September 1993. We had everything planned: she had selected her gown, we were nearing a decision on a wedding date and where we were going to get married when her parents, who were in the middle of an ugly divorce, stepped in and stopped us from going forward with our plans.
Since then, while I have dated both genetic females and male-to-female transsexuals, I became increasingly frustrated by the lack of potential romantic partners. With this in mind, I decided to write out my romantic dreams and hopes through transgender fiction and captions as a way to deal with these frustrations. While I have managed these frustrations, another romantic relationship is nothing more than a dream.
I wrote this a few months ago; the woman whose picture is featured is transgendered.